Ways to stay motivated
After we’ve found our motivation, how do we stay on top of it? Maybe you’re trying to get fit, lose weight, or start your own business. Maybe you’re trying to do several things at once.
Getting motivated and inspired is the first step of a goal. We start going to the gym for the first week, set a schedule, make plans and things go smoothly at first. Soon after the enthusiasm begins fading and it becomes easy to end up at abandoning your goal.
These are some ways I found useful to stay on top of your goals, whatever they might be:
# 1: Start on easy goals – all goals take time and effort, and trying to accomplish more than three or four at a time is more than most people can. Try and pick your most important goals, and remember everything takes time. A good strategy is choosing goals that can relate to another (eg. If you’re trying to get fit, it may be a good idea to have a secondary goal of trying to eat healthier, whereas if you’re number one goal is to write a book, it may not be a good idea to work on starting a business at the same time).
#2 Think ahead – one reason why we might not accomplish our goals is because we fail to prepare. You may have heard the saying: “if you fail to prepare, prepare to fail”. It’s extremely easy to make excuses to give up on goals such as going to the gym and getting fit due to social events getting in the way.
Look at your schedule/agenda over the next few days/months and ask yourself: “Is there anything that might cause problems/conflict with my goals and schedule?” If you know that weekend you may be going away, you might plan on going to the gym on Monday and Wednesday instead of Monday and Friday. If your friend is throwing a big party and you’re on a diet, you may want to save your “cheat day” for this occasion.
#3 Start good habits – a habit starts by constant repetition. We wake up and brush our teeth and shower regularly, these are habits we developed and are considered a normal part of our day. When it comes to starting a new good habit, it can be difficult but definitely achievable.
Let’s say we’re trying to get fit, finding a way to add exercise to our daily routine may help you achieve that. For instance, if you struggle to find time to exercise, you may consider biking to work, and a few push-ups when you wake up and a few before you head to bed. By developing good habits you’ll find it much easier to make progress.
#4 Keep track – when you’ve been working on your goal for a long time, it may feel like you have not made any improvement. If you look all the way back from the start, a few weeks, few months ago, you will often be surprised how far you’ve come. Whether you’ve lost one pound or five pounds, increased from 10 pushups to 15 pushups, it’s still an accomplishment you should be proud of.
A good way to keep track is by keeping a log or journal and writing down all your achievements, big or small, at the end of each week or month, or just recording statistics (eg. Body fat percentage). It’s not so important how you keep track but just doing so keeps you going. You may just want to take a picture of yourself at the end of each month and compare month 1 with month 5.
#6 Seek support and Encouragement – it’s easier to stay on track when you’re surrounded by positivity. Try and associate with people who have the same goals in mind as you or friends, family, or colleagues who encourage you towards your goal.
Find groups that have the same people seeking that same goal you want to accomplish. Eg. Join a book club, find a gym class or dieting club. These should provide you with the opportunity to meet people with similar interests and goals who you can share enthusiasm and offer support and Encouragement.
12 Types and Examples of Distorted Thinking
Mind Reading - When you make assumptions about what somebody is thinking or feeling without them telling you. In reality, you are delusional or paranoid.
Catastrophize - when you over think a problem and the effects that they will actually have on you. For example, when you think that losing a relationship means the end of your life when really you can find someone new the next day or down the line.
Filtering - when you only pay attention to one side of things. For example, you only remember the bad times you had in school and not the good ones.
Polarized thinking - when you think of things as either black or white or good or bad. For example, there can only be good or bad people or success or fails.
Personalization - when you take everything too personally. For example, when you think that everything people do or say is some kind of reaction to you.
Blaming - when you hold other people accountable for your problems. For example, you blame someone else for causing you to make a bad decision. In actuality, you were the one who made the wrong call based on your own judgement.
Being Right - You feel the need to prove that your opinions or actions are correct. For example, you neglect other people’s perspective in an argument.
Should’s - when you place sets of rules on yourself. For example, you think that you should go out whenever your friend asks you to.
Emotional Reading - When you use your emotions to make a decision or judgement. For example, you buy into a product because of how good it was marketed when really the product is not that good.
Fallacy of Change - when you think others should change for you and that your happiness depends on them changing. For example, you expect that person to stop being a jerk because you are being nice to them.
Heaven’s Reward Fallacy - when you expect that all your sacrifices or hard work to pay off. For example, you think that if you work hard enough, you should get a reward.
Overgeneralization - when you carry a problem over to other domains. When you fail a math test, you think that you are not good with anything to do with numbers.
Hope you like my examples and definitions. Feel free to share with me yours.
10 Tips To Think More Creatively
1. Reframe The Problem or Phrase Question Differently
When we phrase a question or problem in a different light, we are more likely to find more solutions. We often look at things from a single angle preventing us from seeing all the possibilities. Some ways to think more creatively for this are to phrase the question differently or to put the problems in a different scenario.
2. Avoid Logical Thinking
Logical thinking can prevent us from innovative thoughts, because when we think logically we only use what we know. Creative ideas are built from what we do not know. To facilitate this process, you can look for inspirations from music, arts or people. Or you can use your dreams to come up with solutions. Studies show that dreams help us problem solve and one advantage is that dreams do not follow logic, but instead give us insights.
3. Avoid Following Rules
This point relates back to point 2, because we usually stick to rigid ideas or beliefs about how things work or should work. Instead, we should become more flexible and ask ourselves the question ‘what if?’ What if we tried?
4. Avoid Being Practical
This point relates to the methods we use to problem solve. Sometimes, we tend to stick to one method and not try other ways. Instead, we should be trying to combine different ideas or methods together.
5. Try Not To Force Creative Thinking
We are often most creative when we do not try to be. Sometimes, ideas just come up to us through insights or unique experiences. Certain dreams are one of them, but we do not really control what we dream about.
6. Talk To Others
We often like to see ourselves as the experts and that we should come up with ideas alone. But truth is ideas usually comes from the outside. We get ideas from talking to people who may or may not be expert of your area but they bring to you their own knowledge and expertise.
7. Embrace Ambiguity
Most problems are ambiguous and may not actually have a straightforward solution. But isn’t it our goal to find a solution? To think creatively, we must accept that each problems are unique and that it will take time and creative effort to find a solution.
8. Embrace Failures
Not all great ideas work out. In fact, most innovations are failures at the start. You just have to keep working at it, find out what went wrong, and keep trying.
9. You Are Creative
You just need some inspiration. It helps if you are patient and explore different ideas. Often times, other ideas inspire us to come up with our own. Furthermore, know your own strength and values you can add to old ideas to make them creative.
10. Practice Practice
Being creative is also an art. You have to become self-aware of what makes you creative, when you are most creative, and what you are most creative at. Start paying attention to what you’re good at and start doing some work. Keep making something new everyday.
Important Dates Masterlist
- October 11, 2012: The Vampire Diaries season premiere
- November 16, 2012: Breaking Dawn Part 2
- November 18, 2012: American Music Awards
- January 13, 2013: Golden Globe Awards
- February 10, 2013: Grammy Awards
- February 24, 2013: Academy Awards
- March 19, 2013: Clockwork Princess by Cassandra Clare
- March 29, 2013: The Host
- March 30, 2013: Kids Choice Awards
- May 3, 2013: Iron Man 3
- June 21, 2013: Monsters University
- July 3, 2013: Despicable Me 2
- July 18, 2013 to July 21, 2013: Comic Con
- August 16, 2013: Percy Jackson: Sea of Monsters
- August 23, 2013: The Mortal Instruments: City of Bones
- November 8, 2013: Thor: The Dark World
- November 22, 2013: The Hunger Games: Catching Fire
- April 4, 2014: Captain America: The Winter Soldier
- May 2, 2014: The Amazing Spider-Man 2
- July 18, 2014: X-Men: Days of Future Fast
- November 21, 2014: The Hunger Games: Mockingjay Part 1
- May 1, 2015: The Avengers 2
- November 20, 2015: The Hunger Games: Mockingjay Part 2
- Forever reblog so that all of us nerds know!
How to make me cry in ten words or less: (add your own)
Sherlock: Goodbye, John.
Avengers: You can’t kill me, I know, I’ve tried!
Thor: I could have done it, Father!
Captain America: I had a date.
Hunger Games: Real.
Harry Potter: Always.
Avatar the Last Airbender: Leaves from the vine
Doctor Who: I don’t want to go!
Doctor Who: I was gonna be with you….forever.
Sherlock: Don’t… be… dead.
Avengers: So that’s what it does…
Thor: TELL ME!!!
Avengers: You give up this poisonous dream! You come home…
Harry Potter: I’m not going home. Not really.
The Amazing Spiderman: Uncle Ben…Uncle Ben…
X-Men: I can’t feel my legs…
Third Star: I’d rather not be alone, mate
Thor: Never doubt that I love you.
Mother 3: You must be tired.
Portal 2: The end.
Thor: i-i’m just another stolen relic
Sherlock: I was so alone, and I owe you so much.
…why would you make a list like this!? D:
Send me one of these in my ask and I’ll write a drabble about a character in accordance to that word!
Spell your name with bands/ artists.
Thousand Foot Krutch
…..I suppose I am satisfied :3
Happy Labor Day, er’body :) And a big Happy Birthday to Davlen :D …it’s a little on the amusing side that his birthday falls on Labor Day o..o Amusing and fitting, considering he always seems to be working…
Yesterday, Mom and I went online to book our tickets to Atlanta. We also booked our rooms at the Lodge (where the wedding party will be staying). Whenever we get there, we’ll rent a car and all that jazz. It hasn’t escaped me that I’ve never been on an airplane before in my life -..- In fact, I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t feeling anxious already. Which…totally sucks since I’ve got the better part of a month before I actually have to get on said plane. Luckily, I have plenty to think about to shift my focus. School’s a given of course, but I’m also thinking of all the things I’ll want to take with me. And, yes, I’ve started a small list of things to bring -..- dang OCD.
Here’s a look at my packing list thus far…
- 4 days worth of clothes
- Bride’s maids dress + pearl set
- Face cleaner
- Laptop cord
- camcorder charger
- camcorder hook up wire
- Cell phone
- cell phone charger
It’s a work in progress. I’m thinking of keeping all the cords and electronics in one place… my back pack. Dad says we get one suitcase and one carry-on, so I’ll just have my suitcase and my back pack. The only problem I can think of at this point is the bridesmaid dress. I realize that I can’t have it hanging, so I’m going to have to fold it up in my suitcase. Even if I lay it on top of everything, it’ll probably still wrinkle, and that means I’ll need a steamer or something… because fabric like that probably can’t just be ironed like normal. Mom says we may be able to find something when we get there… or ask if anyone in the wedding party will actually have a steamer.
Well…I had planned on catching up on some schoolwork today, but I’ve kinda been putting it off. I have to wash clothes and pick up about the house, so I’ve used that as an excuse not to do any work. I think I’ll have some lunch in a minute and then get on the school work wagon. I’ve been pretty fed up with myself lately… but, I remind myself that it’s been over five years since I was in college, so it’ll take me some time to get back into that groove -..-‘
OK. Enough yaking. The jeans in the washer are done, and my stomach is growling. Time to sign off. I’ll type later, Sunshines :)
You Are Rock-Paper-Scissors
You are very smart and mentally inclined person. You like games that test your brainpower.
You are good at noticing patterns and making predictions. You can size other people up well.
It may not seem like there’s a lot to what you do, but you have a strategy for everything.
You tend to think through every decision you make carefully, but you’re also sure not to over think anything.