Lesser Shades of Jane By Kristina Deffenbacher →
Kristina Deffenbacher is a Professor of English at Hamline University in Saint Paul, Minnesota. She has published numerous articles on 19th century literature and a chapter in an edited collection onTwilight. She also has a piece on the paranormal romance genre forthcoming in the Journal of Popular Culture.
Dear God, you have to read this whole article. It’s riviting.
Some Facts on Dreams and Dreaming
1. Most dreams are based on visual images (Except in people who were either born blind, or who lost their sight at an early age). Occasionally, dreams will include sound and touch.
2. The normal rules of logic do not apply in dreams. For example, the dream may be taking place in one location – then, abruptly, the dreamer is translocated to a completely different place.
3. Most dreams occur in a house – but this is usually not your own home. The most frequently reported room is the living room. People rarely dream about their work place or school.
4. The most frequent scenario is the dreamer plus two other people.
5. Famous people seldom appear in our dreams. The vast majority of people dream about people who are significant to them, especially if there is an ongoing conflict.
6. Mundane activities (such as brushing your teeth) rarely appear in dreams.
7. Dreams tend not to be happy events, and the three most common reported emotions are anger, sadness and fear.
8. Some themes are so common that they are reported the world over. These universal themes include the loss of a tooth, falling or flying, exhibition, arriving late for exams or other important events, and being chased or attacked.
9. Cross-cultural research indicates that our dreams reflect normal life events in our own country and culture.
10. There appear to be some differences in the content of dreams between the two sexes. Specifically, women are more likely to dream about their children, family or household activities; men are more likely to dream about strangers, violence, sexual activity, achievement, and outdoor events.
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(via psych-facts)
How to Deal with an Annoying Know-It-All
1. Try to understand why they’re acting that way. Do they feel insecure or have low self-esteem; or are they trying to hide the way they really feel inside?
2. Ignore them when they butt in or they answer others’ questions, or when they tell a story that’s designed to impress. Simply smile, nod your head, and then talk to someone else.
3. Tease them gently so they see that other people aren’t impressed – and that everyone has views that it is worth listening to.
4. If you’re friends, try and tell them how they sometimes come across. But do it when you’re on your own, and don’t be unkind or harsh. Remember – your goal is to help, and not humiliate, your friend.
5. If nothing seems to work, then try to stay away from them. This friendship is doomed and unlikely to last.
(via psych-facts)
